I would agree with this with past issues but I wouldn't call this a good conversation.
This is true - but I would have to say, in the end - if we start to close conversations because some are 'bad' and some are 'good' - who makes the call? Where does it go?
If people are making a conversation go awry, at the end of the day, it's not the conversations fault.
Closing the conversation doesn't mend people's feelings, telling people to take things to private messages seems, in my experience, to be leaving the feelings raw, and then unexpressed, and then they seem to build until they burst forth elsewhere.
People /talking/ is a good thing. Even if things might drift to a new topic - that is, honestly, how real conversations go sometimes, Someone brings up a point and conversation shifts.
I have been thinking much of late, of conversations between people, and feelings, and things left said and unsaid. I think it's important people be honest with each other, while striving not to be hurtful, while striving to treat /themselves/ with dignity and maturity in their actions.
And I know that can sometimes be a hard thing. Everybody has bad days, myself included, and I cannot deny my own actions neither. I'd like to think I've consistently owned up to my own shit.
At the end of the day people, the lasting thing we will take from us from this place is the memories and the bonds we've made with others while here. Nothing else matters. I have some 10 million imaginary dollars, but they are naught but bits on a platter on a shelf, and I can no more take them with me than I can my character.
Now, especially - not for all people but I expect for
most, is not a time to dwell on negative feelings, but a time to be merry. So I'd ask everybody reading this, if there's a fire under you, just stop a moment, catch a breath, and think about what you want to take away from this place.
I myself am left with 4 years of mostly negative memories and thoughts of how things could have been different, and in the end I don't really want them, nor did I ever, and for some time I've been sticking around trying to change my lingering recollections to those of better moments, by trying to recapture the same spirit that led to me trying to better the place in the first place. I find it difficult. I don't imagine anyone finds it easy.
Take a breath, and think.
- Naelwyn